Continuing Your Goals in the Face of Adversity: A Personal Journey

Life often throws curveballs that test our resilience, and my recent experience is a testament to this. After traveling from Florida to Virginia to be with my daughter for the birth of her 2nd child, I was brimming with excitement and joy. However, in the midst of this beautiful family moment, I was served with divorce papers. This unexpected turn of events could have shattered me, but it instead became a powerful lesson in perseverance and goal-setting.

Embracing Change with Courage

Change, especially one as significant as a divorce, can be daunting. But, embracing it with courage is the first step towards healing. I chose to focus on the positives - the birth of my grandchild and my role as a supportive mother and grandmother. This shift in perspective was crucial in helping me navigate through this difficult period.

Redefining Goals

Adversity often forces us to reassess our life goals. For me, the initial goal was to support my daughter. However, the new circumstances made me realize the importance of self-care and personal growth. I began setting small, achievable goals for myself, like taking long walks in nature and reconnecting with old friends. These goals gave me a sense of purpose and direction amidst the chaos.

Finding Strength in Vulnerability

One of the most important lessons I learned is the strength in vulnerability. Sharing my feelings with close friends and family not only provided me with a support system but also helped me understand that it's okay not to be okay. This realization was liberating and a crucial step in my healing process.

Staying Positive and Hopeful

Maintaining a positive outlook is essential when facing adversity. I make a conscious effort to surround myself with positivity, whether through uplifting music, books, or people. This positivity became a source of strength and hope, reminding me that every challenge has a silver lining.

Seeking Professional Help

I also recognized the importance of seeking professional help. Talking to a therapist provided me with objective insights and coping strategies. It was a safe space where I could unravel my emotions without judgment.


Adversity, as overwhelming as it can be, also brings opportunities for growth and self-discovery. My journey home for the holidays and birth of my 2nd “grand”, though marked by an unexpected challenge, taught me the importance of resilience, the power of positive thinking, and the strength that comes from within. To anyone facing similar challenges, remember that you are not alone, and every step forward, no matter how small, is a step towards healing and growth.

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  • Since you are connecting with old friends you should get in touch with my daughter Julie. She and a group of your St. Mary’s classmates have been getting together in mist Thursday nights. After the holidays they will start back up.
    I am so glad you are focusing on the positive, those beautiful babies. Stay strong.

    Joann moroni

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